Realizing that the anus was intended for the expulsion of fecal material and not for the insertion of foreign objects, one must take into consideration two primary factors; one how do you coax the anus into allowing the insertion of a foreign object and two what lubricant(s) should you use.
Many lubricants are safe for anal sex, but there are products that are specially made or designed to enhance enjoyment of anal sex. Often this is simply a thicker gel rather than a liquid.
This thicker consistency is preferable because it helps the lubricant stay in place.
Some lubricants contain benzocaine, Xylocaine/lidocaine (or lignocaine) or ketamine, they are anesthetics. However, the use of any numbing for anal penetration is not recommended in the beginning.
First learn to listen to you inner body/ass, as a lack of sensation makes or can make accidental injury more likely. In addition, benzocaine it can cause an allergic reaction in those with an allergy to PABA (4-aminobenzoic acid).
Here I will tell you about the various lubes that are currently available.
Lubes to use for Fist basically come in 5 main groups: water soluble, tropical oil based, vegetable based, silicone based and oil based. The last 2 groups like oil based and silicone based are not or netter not used for fisting.
Oil based, for example petroleum-based lubricants (petroleum jelly), such as Vaseline. Its use is strongly discouraged as it is not readily digestible, leaves a residue in the bowels that inhibits the normal functioning of the bowel, it can increase the likelihood of breakage and slipping of latex gloves due to loss of elasticity caused by these lubricants and is harder to wash off the skin and out of laundry.
Silicone-based, are usually formulated with fewer than four ingredients and do not contain any water. Silicone lubricants offer a different feel from water-based personal lubricants. They are not absorbed by skin or mucus membranes, and consequently last longer than water-based lubricants. Many different silicone lubricants are commercially available with varying quality and performance. Not all silicone-based lubricants are certified latex-safe, but silicone-based lubricants have not been shown to increase the risk of HIV transmission during anal intercourse, as some water-based lubes have.
Silicone-based lubricants are not usually recommended for use with sex toys or other products that are made from silicone because the formula may dissolve the surface making it sticky to the touch, and cause disintegration of the item over time. This damage may create a breeding ground for bacteria. In most cases a warning is listed on the product label. At least one manufacturer claims their silicone-based lubricant is safe for use with silicone products. They are also used in the manufacture of pre-lubricated condoms, due to its long-lasting properties and superior latex compatibility.
Only 3 groups are useful for Fisting.
Each group has its own particular advantages and disadvantages.
Water soluble lubes, (J-lube, Elbow Grease Gel, Foreplay, KY, Durex play feel, etc.), are water based. These have a tendency to dry out and become tacky during use and need to be re-applied several times or moistened with water during a session. A spray bottle of water is a useful and convenient way to accomplish this.
J- Lube’s primary ingredient is polyethylene oxide, there is a readymade one “Probe” another well-known water based lube for good heavy play. Both of these lubes are well-known for their stringy quality but they’re messy. The thing is that they form wonderful slick barriers that make large penetrations very much easier.
Tropical lubes, (Elbow Grease regular, Fist, Natural Lube, etc.), are made from palm/coconut oils and usually do not require any additional moisture to keep them slick. Care should be used as some people are allergic to tropical oils and products containing them. Ask your partner before using any lube that contains as part of its chemistry palm/coconut oils. Tropical lubes, like petroleum lubes, cause a rapid breakdown of latex items, so use a little extra caution and change gloves often during a session.
Vegetable based lubes, (Crisco, etc.), are made primarily from corn or soy bean oils. They are heavy, do not need any additional moisture to keep them slick and provide excellent adhesion to the anal area. Breakdown of latex items is minimal and the cost is negligible compared to the other types of lubes.
Some lubricants, with the exception of Crisco, contain Nonoxynol-9, a spermicide, which has proven beneficial in the destruction of the HIV virus that causes AIDS. However, there are conflicting reports among experts as to how beneficial Nonoxynol-9 is and there have been statements issued by the Surgeon General’s office that Nonoxynol-9 has caused allergic reactions in some people. Here again, a little common sense and caution will pay off. Ask your partner if he/she is allergic to Nonoxynol-9. If your partner does not know proceed with extra care, or better yet, select a lube which does not contain nonoxynol-9.
In fisting, there can never be too much lube. You must remember that the sexual activity that you’re engaging in causes a tremendous amount of stress to the anal area and the bowel, regardless of how careful you are, so the smoother you can make the penetration the better. There are people who use one can of Crisco every session. A little messy, but the results are great! Myself I love to play with Crisco because if I want rimming the rose-butt and I LOVE that, I do not want to have a strange taste in my mouth, but in the last years I learned to do it also with other lubricants… still you will see a difference if I play with Crisco I go even more wild.
Lube contamination is a major concern, especially if you are involved in a group scene. Most of the commercially available products come in squeeze tubes or with pump tops for dispensing. Others, such as Crisco, do not have these advantages so extra care must be taken to prevent contamination. The easiest way to do this is to portion the lube out into disposable containers. This way the original container doesn’t become contaminated by everyone “helping” themselves. In a one on one session the one pound cans of Crisco are easy to use and dispose of.
With a little experimentation you will determine which lube is best for you. Everyone has his favorites.
The best rule is to use whatever the bottom prefers. If you, as the top, are allergic to the chemical structure of the lube, take a few extra precautions to protect yourself such as wearing a long sleeve shirt with the gloves up over the sleeve cuffs or obtain some veterinarians’ gloves like those used in artificial insemination of livestock which go all the way up to the arm pit. With a little common sense and care, you and your partner should be able to have a fulfilling session.