Fisting: A General Introduction Part IV

Lubes
Realizing that the anus was intended for the expulsion of fecal material and not for the insertion of foreign objects, one must take into consideration two primary factors; one how do you coax the anus into allowing the insertion of a foreign object and two what lubricant(s) should you use.

Anal-specific…
Many lubricants are safe for anal sex, but there are products that are specially made or designed to enhance enjoyment of anal sex. Often this is simply a thicker gel rather than a liquid.
This thicker consistency is preferable because it helps the lubricant stay in place.
Some lubricants contain benzocaine, Xylocaine/lidocaine (or lignocaine) or ketamine, they are anesthetics. However, the use of any numbing for anal penetration is not recommended in the beginning.
First learn to listen to you inner body/ass, as a lack of sensation makes or can make accidental injury more likely. In addition, benzocaine it can cause an allergic reaction in those with an allergy to PABA (4-aminobenzoic acid).

Here I will tell you about the various lubes that are currently available.
Lubes to use for Fist basically come in 5 main groups: water soluble, tropical oil based, vegetable based, silicone based and oil based. The last 2 groups like oil based and silicone based are not or netter not used for fisting.

Oil based, for example petroleum-based lubricants (petroleum jelly), such as Vaseline. Its use is strongly discouraged as it is not readily digestible, leaves a residue in the bowels that inhibits the normal functioning of the bowel, it can increase the likelihood of breakage and slipping of latex gloves due to loss of elasticity caused by these lubricants and is harder to wash off the skin and out of laundry.

Silicone-based, are usually formulated with fewer than four ingredients and do not contain any water. Silicone lubricants offer a different feel from water-based personal lubricants. They are not absorbed by skin or mucus membranes, and consequently last longer than water-based lubricants. Many different silicone lubricants are commercially available with varying quality and performance. Not all silicone-based lubricants are certified latex-safe, but silicone-based lubricants have not been shown to increase the risk of HIV transmission during anal intercourse, as some water-based lubes have.
Silicone-based lubricants are not usually recommended for use with sex toys or other products that are made from silicone because the formula may dissolve the surface making it sticky to the touch, and cause disintegration of the item over time. This damage may create a breeding ground for bacteria. In most cases a warning is listed on the product label. At least one manufacturer claims their silicone-based lubricant is safe for use with silicone products. They are also used in the manufacture of pre-lubricated condoms, due to its long-lasting properties and superior latex compatibility.

Only 3 groups are useful for Fisting.
Each group has its own particular advantages and disadvantages.

Water soluble lubes, (J-lube, Elbow Grease Gel, Foreplay, KY, Durex play feel, etc.), are water based. These have a tendency to dry out and become tacky during use and need to be re-applied several times or moistened with water during a session. A spray bottle of water is a useful and convenient way to accomplish this.

J- Lube’s primary ingredient is polyethylene oxide, there is a readymade one “Probe” another well-known water based lube for good heavy play. Both of these lubes are well-known for their stringy quality but they’re messy. The thing is that they form wonderful slick barriers that make large penetrations very much easier.

Tropical lubes, (Elbow Grease regular, Fist, Natural Lube, etc.), are made from palm/coconut oils and usually do not require any additional moisture to keep them slick. Care should be used as some people are allergic to tropical oils and products containing them. Ask your partner before using any lube that contains as part of its chemistry palm/coconut oils. Tropical lubes, like petroleum lubes, cause a rapid breakdown of latex items, so use a little extra caution and change gloves often during a session.

Vegetable based lubes, (Crisco, etc.), are made primarily from corn or soy bean oils. They are heavy, do not need any additional moisture to keep them slick and provide excellent adhesion to the anal area. Breakdown of latex items is minimal and the cost is negligible compared to the other types of lubes.

Some lubricants, with the exception of Crisco, contain Nonoxynol-9, a spermicide, which has proven beneficial in the destruction of the HIV virus that causes AIDS. However, there are conflicting reports among experts as to how beneficial Nonoxynol-9 is and there have been statements issued by the Surgeon General’s office that Nonoxynol-9 has caused allergic reactions in some people. Here again, a little common sense and caution will pay off. Ask your partner if he/she is allergic to Nonoxynol-9. If your partner does not know proceed with extra care, or better yet, select a lube which does not contain nonoxynol-9.

In fisting, there can never be too much lube. You must remember that the sexual activity that you’re engaging in causes a tremendous amount of stress to the anal area and the bowel, regardless of how careful you are, so the smoother you can make the penetration the better. There are people who use one can of Crisco every session. A little messy, but the results are great! Myself I love to play with Crisco because if I want rimming the rose-butt and I LOVE that, I do not want to have a strange taste in my mouth, but in the last years I learned to do it also with other lubricants… still you will see a difference if I play with Crisco I go even more wild.

Lube contamination is a major concern, especially if you are involved in a group scene. Most of the commercially available products come in squeeze tubes or with pump tops for dispensing. Others, such as Crisco, do not have these advantages so extra care must be taken to prevent contamination. The easiest way to do this is to portion the lube out into disposable containers. This way the original container doesn’t become contaminated by everyone “helping” themselves. In a one on one session the one pound cans of Crisco are easy to use and dispose of.
With a little experimentation you will determine which lube is best for you. Everyone has his favorites.
The best rule is to use whatever the bottom prefers. If you, as the top, are allergic to the chemical structure of the lube, take a few extra precautions to protect yourself such as wearing a long sleeve shirt with the gloves up over the sleeve cuffs or obtain some veterinarians’ gloves like those used in artificial insemination of livestock which go all the way up to the arm pit. With a little common sense and care, you and your partner should be able to have a fulfilling session.

NOTE: 
PLEASE TO ALL BEGINNERS AND OR THOSE WHO PLAY ALREADY FOR A LONGTIME, MORE AND MORE I SEE ON PARTIES AROUND THE WORLD GUYS COMEING IN WITH PLASTIC DISHWASH BOTTLES FILLED WITH J-LUBE OR ANY OTHER LUBRICANT.
THIS IS A TURN-OFF
THERE ARE PLASTIC CONTAINERS OR BOTTLES YOU CAN BUY EVERY WHERE 
LIKE IN SPORT SHOPS 
USE THEM, 
IT’S MORE SEXY

example:
or

To all of you…

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Fisting: A General Introduction – part III

Additional what I wrote about the eating,
I need to tell you that besides paying attention on what to eat there is more.
You have to find out for yourself how long it takes to digest/corrode food, for each and every person this is different. For me it is 48 up to 72 hours, for my boyfriend it is 1 up to 3 hours… so you see different.
If you do not know your timetable, let me tell how you can find out. Prepare yourself a dinner with potatoes, spinach and beef. (If you do not like spinach replace this with beetroot.) The stool will be green (with beetroot = red) colored in de following hours or days. Every time you go the toilets check-out your stool. Now you know how long it takes. This is good to find out what you can expect while you douche/clean your ass.

The washing or cleaning is the best way to do it in 2 or 3 times, if you have eaten other food that I mentioned in “Part I” or let me remind you all kind of pastas/spaghettis are good diets before playing. All this is again depending on your stool? All other food are maybe requiring more cleaning. I know guys who only live on pastas & spaghettis… but they are into heavy playing (meaning 5 or 6 days in a week).
Let me tell you, if you know you going to play in the evening than the best is to clean the first time in the morning or after waking up whatever hour that is … a small cleaning around 10 to 15 minutes. The 2nd time you clean again 10 to 15 min. yourself around lunchtime or just after finishing work and if it is necessary the 3th time one hour before the FFun, 10 to max. 20 minutes. This is a nice and comfortable way of cleaning yourself and good for the inner flora of your body.
If you really hungry you can eat something like or with rice, around lunchtime or 4 to 3 hours before playing. Rice in general stops everything for some hours…

Having selected your equipment, eaten (and mentally prepared), you are now ready to begin. The idea is to create an environment in which you can relax. Relaxation is your “best” friend when cleaning out. After you find out what is the best way for you or for those who are used to the process of cleaning it will go much easier. But even I see sometimes guys who are into fisting for quite a while that they do not know really how to clean….

Your bowels will be receptive and agreeable to the enema. Select a tepid/lukewarm water temperature, something that feels pleasant to the skin. ATTENTION! Remember the bowels can’t “feel”. Water that is too warm may cause burning of the interior lining. Water that is too cool may cause cramps. If it is your first time than apply a small amount of lubricant (something that is NOT water soluble or petroleum based) to the anal area and nozzle. Lubrication allows for easier insertion of the nozzle. Allow the water to enter you at a rate that doesn’t cause immediate discomfort or “triggers” the evacuation response. The best results are obtained by taking just enough fluid in to cause some pressure in your left side. When you reach this point remove the nozzle and retain the water by clenching your anal muscles. Retention allows the water to move around in the bowel. You can also scrub your hand over your stomach to stimulate this also called gravity. As it does, the pressure you felt in you will subside and additional water may be injected. Time and experience will teach you when to add more or release what you have. When releasing, FORCE, yourself to do so in a calm and relaxed manner. Sudden expulsion of the enema mixed with fecal material can cause fissures and abrasions to the rectal tissues. Use common sense. Repeat the process until the fluid you are releasing is clear with no fecal fragments visible.

If you really have difficulty getting clean enough, it’s worth filling yourself partially, holding it, and lying down or even raising the hips slightly. This allows gravity to work in your favor, and moves the water more deeply into the bowel. You’ll find that expelling after deep filling will take longer, and water will continue to make its way down for some time, but once you’re used to it, you’ll learn to know when its all out. Doing this repeatedly over a period of a couple of hours, with 15-20 min breaks, will in most guys clean out deeply and effectively.

It’s also worth taking a moment to think about the shape of the bowel, and where it lies in the abdomen. Tracing the route upward from the anus, the rectum generally slopes toward the guy’s left, kinks slightly, and moves up the left hand side of the body as the descending colon until it turns a corner more or less under the bottom of the rib cage. Lying on your left side will again help gravity to help in the cleaning process, by letting the water enter the descending colon more easily.  No matter how careful the cleaning out, nothing can guarantee cleanliness, especially with deep or heavy fisting.  No real fister will be phased by this, and will simply scoop it out and carry on. Wishing to be as clean as possible is understandable and reasonable, but fisting really isn’t an activity for anyone who is paranoid about coming into contact with shit.

DO NOT and i repeat DO NOT go on for more than a half hour with putting water in or push it to far this will make your ass tired even before starting. Liters of water is’t good either do it in small proportians.
Short periods are better…

There is one other very important thing to do before we start to play:
Tops & Bottoms cute your nails. 
Please, uncut nails can do a lot of harm to the bottom. 
Check also if after cutting the nails are smooth if not polish them. 

Once again, this information is in no way an absolute standard for the practices being discussed.
Each one of you must determine for him/her-self what suits them.
I can’t say it enough this is written out of our experience, but in the 30 years of me fisting it helped a lot of guys with it…

Fisting: A General Introduction – part II

Equipment to clean – and what do I want?
(Anal Douches & Enemas)
Cleaning is one of the most important things to do before playing. Man or woman it does not matter you have to, out of respect for your partner or the people you play with. You do not want to play in an undiscovered black or red sea…. (except for thos who wear a brown hanky).

There are a lot of items available on the market today.
Experimentation will help you decide which works best for you.
Cost will also be a factor so take your time.

Everyone has seen the neat little ready-to-use disposable products.
For a quick “clean-out” before or a quick rinse out afterwards, these are great.
However, from a complete cleansing point of view they are a little ineffective.

Syringe bulbs have a major advantage over the fleet/stream.
You have a reusable, refillable container that is easily transported and used.
But, here again, they are not practical as you have to refill often.

Both are easy to travel with you never know where you find good action and sometimes you’re not prepared. We were on the road one day, somewhere in Holland and we wanted to play :-) )  we went in to a public bathroom filled it up with water and cleaned ourselves, 15 min later we were playing somewhere outside and later a 2nd time in the car it was HOT… so it can be handy.

or

The old fashioned hanging “douche” bag is great for a novice/ beginner.
They come with a water control device which will allow you to regulate the rate and amount you wish to take in. The bag is portable, easy to clean and use. Cost wise the bag is cheap and will last for some time given proper care and storage.

Shower shots or tubes are  the most comment used. The aluminum ones they are somewhat expensive, ranging in price from 50€ to 150€ depending on where you purchase one.  It is portable, but not without disadvantages. The only disadvantages I have found are solids in the water will eventually clog up the openings in the shot and not enough nozzle depth for a really high cleaning.

or

Polypropylene or silicone tubing is cheaper between 25€ and 80€, flexible, easy to use/clean and sterilize for multiple person usage (still the best is that you use your own – hygienically) and now a day to buy in different sizes up to 40/50 cm. allowing for greater depth in cleaning. Easy to transport and is light weight.
Shots/tubes are sometimes equipped with an aluminum nozzle attached to a flexible hose, connected to a 2-way valve that is usually installed in the shower or you unscrew the showerhead and replace it with your tube.
Attention do not start with large/long tubes before you know how to clean yourself.
You don’t want to hurt yourself so start with the standard sizes.

Most of these equipments / tools you can by or either on the web or in sexshops all over the world or just around your corner….
Cleaning up can be half the fun. So choose out of the variety of anal douches and enema styles for hygiene and pleasure.

Other:

adapting piece for your douche:
always easy
(around 25€)
Travel kitt:


Fisting: A General Introduction – part I

Because I can only discuss fisting from the anal point of view, I will have to find someone to help me out and will tell about fisting from the vaginal point of view.
(So if someone in your circle of friends who is straight and likes fisting too. Please let her or him get in contact with me. Stop laughing there are more straight people than you think who loves this too)

So I will tell you about the things i learned in the 30 years that I practice fisting.
I enjoyed this fetish so much that it became actually my second life… :-) )
Or like some say “I am a fist addicted”…

Yes, 30 years! I was young when I discovered Fisting for the first time but from the moment I saw it done to someone I couldn´t get my mind away from it. Why? Because already active sexually very young it was the first time that I saw a guy with an expression on his face of joy, pleasure, being in heaven and a smile …wooff.  Still when I think about that first moment I’m getting warm inside…..
The person who was fisting looked at me and asked if I liked what I saw?
My answer: “can´t you see that on my face”.
He asked me if i wanted to learn all about it and before he finished his question I was knotting YES, YES. So they gave me a 3 day lesson… 3 days of total pleasure.
They told me about the techniques, preparation – all types of equipment preparing before completing the act an how much is enough in cleaning or using and when to stop in playing?
Lubrications what to use for what and the effect of…
Safe Sex (lube, contamination, gloves, hands & preparation fingernails, calluses, proper disposal of materials and the clean-up)
Mood, enhancements, drugs, alcohol, poppers etc. etc.
By the way I am NOT a fan of drugs and I wont encourage people to use it. I prefer that you won’t use it.
It is so much more pleasure without and you will enjoy it 100 times more without. 
Either through it is a longer process to reach the goal.
But I will try to tell the effects of it, because I know it is well used in our community or better said sometimes (more & more) miss-used. (So for your own safety I will explain it, because it is enemy Nº 1, if it is used wrong for those who like fisting)

So after 3 days being in heaven and going back home I felt like a man, a man who good give pleasure to others. Giving the highest climax in pleasure. Beside the above I learned also that fisting is more than only putting a hand in someone’s ass, it is the whole game incl. rimming, eating the rose-bud, fucking -especially after fisting- and wet sex. Okay the last goes very good together with fist but not always a must, depends on the guy and yourself.

When I came out of the closet i found very quick my way in the gay community even we did not have internet on that time, the first 2 years I was looking what I was looking for and then I found out about the Leather scene, one of the community´s in the gay world. Real man who like man.
Putting on a leather jacket and went to the capital of the gay world: Amsterdam ,
to the Argos  one of the dutch oldest leather bars. When I entered the first time, “wooouuww”, I don´t say it was a shock but it was a world that only happened up so far in my mind, suddenly it was there in front of me.
Because I did not know what to do or behave, I took up an attitude as the one of the Active guy. Whenever someone approached to me and wanted more I looked around and did the same…. and yes with every moment I was learning very fast.
But with fisting I was happy that someone teached/learned me how and what to do, also here I was only interested in the active way of fist. Years later (8 years later) when I found “the” good connection with a guy the fisted me too. Finally I learned besides doing it also how it felt to be fisted. In totally I have been fisted 5 times and I really enjoyed it 2 times, not because the others didn´t know what they were doing but because with that guy I had that special connection. For me it was enough, I’m not passive. I don´t enjoy any kind of penetration like fucking, fisting or toys. Being active suits me fine.

For the passive side of fisting I will relay on my boyfriend, who is like me is addicted to this fetish and has doing it for 10 years now. Together we hope that you will in time have the same feeling as us in enjoying the game….

Common sense tells us that any good fisting scene has to be preceded by thoughtful preparation. One of the MOST important processes is the Act. BUT, before you begin there are several things you should do first. Here, again, we’re speaking from a personal view (this works best for us point of view). However, most fisters I know will tell you or agreed with it that we all prepared in basically the same manner with minor variations to suit ourselves. Careful planning ahead will make for an easier “clean-out” and provide longer “staying” in power.

Food or Diet is your first consideration. Foods that move rapidly through the digestive system should be avoided. Foods that take longer to digest, such as rare beef, chicken, lasagna, are highly recommended. (Personally I find that a pizza does great as the combination of meat, cheese and dough or spaghetti bolognaise will plug my system for about 36 hours.) Foods to be avoided are veggies, fruits, soups and heavy sweets. Eating about 3 hours prior to the play is also recommended as this allows your digestive system time to start moving the food from your stomach into the intestinal tract for “blocking”.
DO NOT attempt a play immediately after eating. You wouldn’t go swimming so don’t do fist. You MUST allow the body to prepare.
Do not drink relaxation drinks or those drinks that do it to your body system like these beers: Geuze, Kriek, Duvel or any other drink made with aged Hops, 3 hours before playing.
(Once in my bar I gave a guy Geuze to drink because he wanted to taste Belgium beers, he drunk 3 but did not say he was into fisting, a couple of hours later you wouldn’t have liked to see my darkroom and the guy who was playing with him.)

Answers on questions…..

I know the ass is sensitive, but how many nerve endings are there in the ass?
 
Is it the same in guys and girls?
 
and are the “good feeling nerves” located in the sphincter or the rectum?

The anus – the anal opening, the anal canal – the first few centimeters inside, and the rectum are all sensitive in different ways, which is why anal stimulation and penatration can be so pleasurable. The external and internal sphincter muscles surround the anal opening. These muscles can work together or independently of each other, and these are the muscles we must learn to relax in order to fulfill comfortable anal penetration.

When we talk about the sphincter and pelvic muscles and how they play a role in anal pleasure, we discuss them less in terms of sensitivity and more in terms of how tone and in shape they are and how tense or relaxed they are. The anus and the outside part of the anal canal are made of the same sensitive soft tissue and this tissue contains the most concentration of nerve endings of all our anal anatomy. In general, this tissue tends to be more sensitive to touch and vibration. The inner part of the anal canal and the rectum are mucous membrane and have a lot less nerve endings; however this tissue is much more sensitive to pressure – like from penetration.

Man and women have nearly identical anorectal anatomy except for one important difference: men have a prostate gland, which can be stimulated directly via anal penetration. The prostate gland surrounds part of a man’s urethra; it’s behind the pubic bone, below the bladder and above the base of the penis. A mass of muscle, glands, and connective tissue, the prostate is about the size and shape of a walnut; it produces ejaculatory fluid that combines with sperm and fluid from the seminal vesicles to create male ejaculate. Men can experience direct prostate stimulation when they are anally penetrated. It can be found by sliding a finger or toy some centimeters inside a man’s ass and aiming toward the front of his body.

While women don’t have a prostate, but they do have a G-spot and can experience indirect of the G-spot stimulation through anal penetration. The G-spot is the urethral sponge which sits around the urethra; to find it, slip a finger inside her vagina a couple of centimeters and toward the front of her body. The G-spot can be stimulated through the front wall of the vagina or indirectly though anal sex.

With special thanks to my doctor for the kind explanation…

Codes & Signs…

Before we go further let me explain you the codes & signs that we use in this blog and in the real world. Those signs you can find frequently on the web pages with dating services.    

In our world or better said in the world of Gay Fetish fantasies, so also the Fist community uses a lot of codes and signs.

First let’s talk about what we like as a person, active or passive and also versatile.
Top or bottom?
In general we know what we like in our sexual behavior or we know to what we are attracted. If not let me help You:

Active/Top: a person who we call active or top is a person who likes to do things in a dominant way, to control.
THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT THIS PERSON DOESN’T LIKE TO BE SUCKED RIMMED OR THAT HE DOES NOT LIKE PAIN OR ROUGH SEX.                      
An active guy can also be submissive but does not like penetrations in any kind of form.     
An active person wants to give in general he likes to fuck, fist etc.
or be the master of the game, the S in SM = Sado Masochism.




Passive/Bottom: a person who we call passive or bottom is a person who likes to get things done to him, to receive.
THIS DOES NOT MEAN THAT THIS PERSON DOESN’T LIKE TO DO THINGS TO LIKE SUCKING RIMMING OR TO GIVE PLEASURE THE OTHER PERSON.                 
A passive guy can be active too but likes above all penetrations.  A passive person wants to receive in general he likes to get fucked fisted etc.  So being more the M in SM.


Versatile: is a person that likes both sides active/passive or some people say also that they do not know what they really want. (My personal experience is that 8 out of 10 versatile guys I met are passive.) But sometimes you walk up to one who really is….                          
Versatile guys you see on profiles on gay dating services as 50/50.
You also see profiles with 60 or 70% etc. in either direction, in general it means we like one side more than the other but we can switch.

FISTING:

FF = Fist Fucking (Hand Fucking)
double Fist = 2 Fist (Hands)
Fist boxing or Boxing = Punching with the hands
Deep or Elbow deep fisting
Wide fisting
FFun = Fist Fun
Feet Fucking or Feet fisting = Same as Fist but with the feet.


Hanky code signs…

The hanky code sign is an old system that was already used in the 18 century by Christian people in the far west, in that time the hanky’s were used in 3 colors white/yellow/orange to say: I want something – I am free or I am married but still want sex.
It was picked back up by the gay community in the 60’s / 70’s but with more colors and other meanings. I will explain the most common ones. Here we come back again to the active/top wearing the hanky on the left side, in general in the back pocket of his pants (Why left? Like in politics the left is in general more active), the passive/bottom is wearing the hanky on the right side. Versatile guys wear this in general around their neck.
For fisting it is the color RED.

                                                                                right:                          left:

  • RED               =    Fist                              Fist fucker                 Loves to get fisted
  • Dark RED     =    double Fist                 2 Hand fister             2 Hand fistee
  • Dark Bleu      =    Fucking                      Loves to Fuck            Loves to get fucked
  • Light Bleu      =    Sucking                      Wants head               Expert cocksucker
  • Yellow            =    Watersport/Piss         Pisser                         Piss freak
  • Grey               =    Bondage                     Bondage top              Bondage bottom
  • Orange           =   Anything                    Anything/anytime      Nothing  now
  • Brown            =    Scat                             Scat top                      Scat bottom
  • Army Green  =    Uniforms or drill       Militairy top              Militairy bottom

Those are the most famous ones… there are a lot more and i will put the whole list here one day.





This Blog…

Fisting: is an act, an environment, preparatio, control and communication with your partner.
All those things we gona discuse in detail.
I hope that through the help of my blog you can get valuable information and learn more about this fetish whether you are a beginner or an experienced Fister or Fistee.
I’m open for questions and discussion, so feel free to tell me your experience.
The experience of a Top or Bottom are totaly different but you haveto listen to the other. 
This is a golden rule…


NOTHING I write here or is written by another person as a comment should be interpreted like that is the only way to go.
Everyone has to decide for him / herself what is the best and most comfortable. This blog is intended to be a guide and to generate an open minded, positive ambient to exchange ideas, information and experiences.
You can write to me in the following languages: (English, Castellano, Francais, Nederlands, Deutsch & Magyar)  In all the other languages I need your help,
so feel free to post in your own language.

I welcome all questions.
If you believe that knowledge dispels ignorance and fear and leads to a better understanding of yourself and the people around you, come, travel with us to explore the pleasures of Fisting.

FFTop66

Questions



Questions:

I know the ass is sensitive, but how many nerve endings are there in the ass? 

Is it the same in guys and girls? 

And are the “good feeling nerves” located in the sphincter or the rectum?

Answers tomorrow….